Now be honest, a lot of us faced heartaches, break ups & separation. And we know how much it hurts to lose someone & how to end your relationship.
It's not easy to let go of the feelings, the memories we've shared together...
It's not easy to accept the reality that you need to move on and let go of the things that are no more important to your life...
It's not easy to accept that you are not enough for someone,
that you lack something
that you are imperfect and you can't be that ideal person whom he/she wants you to be.
We always say "just accept it" but the truth lies within the phrase "It's not easy as you think"
We need to move on, yes. Always. But the truth lies within too "It's not easy as you think"
We need to forgive, but this time... the truth lies within ourselves and not in the phrase.
Let me rephrase it again. "We forgive because we want to" One thing I want to share is when it comes on forgiving someone, don't perceive "forgiveness" as your obligation to someone.
Don't pressure yourself on forgiving someone
Don't do it because someone tells you so
Don't do it because you want to heal
"Do it because you are willing to."
If you forgive someone because you see forgiveness as an obligation, it will never heal your heart and soul. It will only make your life more complicated. More painful.
I have so many friends who faced heartbreaks, break ups & separation.
NOW START LOOKING AT THE MESSAGE:
"In every heartache there is a lesson. "
When we are hopeless to find solutions on healing the past, we stop. We tend to dwell on the negative energy making our lives more complicated & painful.
Why? because we are almost giving up.
Giving up the energy of being a hopeful person. Giving up the opportunity that better days are coming.
Humans do easily give up when they start to feel the hardships. But this time, why don't we try.
Because trying is a good practice to heal our past.
I know it's not easy. But it doesn't mean that when it is difficult, there's no more a good prognosis that we can heal it. Because the truth is, we have the power to heal it.
It doesn't start from the person who broke you because it starts with YOU.
Let me help you:
Take a look "again" to your past.
Not to dwell on the bad memories
Not to forgive someone because you are forced to do so
Not to give you another heartache
But to create a room for the present.
One thing I learned from reading my bible is;
It's not bad to go back to your past memories and life. Go back because God is telling you that you need to let go those things that are no more necessary to your baggage.
Accept the things that happened in the past and it's totally alright; those failures are part of your past & learn how to embrace it.
Find those things that you need to let go, accept & need to embrace from your past.
Because in order to create a new room, you need to delete something (that means of letting go the unnecessary things)
Focus on what is happening in the present!
You want to heal the past right? After letting go and accepting the things you need to, now focus on your present. What matters today is your present and not your past. When you start letting go of the past you need to literally let go of it, because you have the tendency of "what if's" if you didn't honestly let it go.
In this point we started:
Appreciating things
Be thankful
Developing yourself
Getting to know more of your friends
Exploring things most important thing;
start to develop your relationship with God
In the present we see the reality. The reality that we can heal our own scars and we have the capability to make ourselves more better. And that is by doing the things you love and the things you never knew you could actually do it.
When you're on your present, you should stop worrying your what if's about the past and what could happen about the future.
Just simply be happy and be grateful for all the blessings God is giving you.
Because if you keep worrying about your past & future, you might miss the things that are happening in the present ;)
And now, let's start talking about your future!
You have to focus again on your present for you to attain the future you want to have. But of course you need to work that out! How?
By:
Letting go your past and making a room for you present
Enjoying your present life and being grateful for all things that is happening, whether it is a good or a bad thing.
Last and importantly;
Never ending prayers for guidance
As you can see, we would never know what our future could bring if we will keep on dwelling on the past. You are keeping yourself stuck on the past you should forgetting about.
Bloggerista, it's time.
It's time to make your move to keep moving forward.
It's time to tell yourself that you can forgive without forcing yourself to.
It's time to let go and accept the reality.
It's time to accept that your past is a blessing in disguise for you to be a better person.
Hi my dear Bloggerista readers! Thank you for reading my last blog for the month of June
I'm not a professional writer and don't have the skills on my english grammar but still, I'm really thankful for acknowleding my blogs & articles!
Feel free to correct if I do have wrong grammars! Godbless ya'll! mwa xoxo
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